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A Man Who Has Nothing In Particular To Recommend Him Discusses All Sorts of Subjects at Random as Though He Knew Everything

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[I Hope You Have A Pleasant Memorial Day Weekend. Scroll Down For New Stuff. Uncle Bobby Stays ’til Tuesday.]


He gazes out of the photo, mute, enigmatic, not quite smiling, and speaks to me across the decades.

When I was a little boy, amusements were few and far between. Television was still in black and white for us, and after the reruns of Gilligan’s Island and The Three Stooges, not much was on the idiot box, as my father called it.

I remember my father and me trying to watch a hockey game broadcast from the west coast featuring the California Golden Seals, who were setting a new low in sports sumptuary and getting pasted by our mighty Boston Bruins — Bobby Orr and Phil Esposito and Pie McKenzie and… well, I can still recite all their names down to the most obscure, even Garnet (Ace to his friends)Bailey. On a thirteen inch black and white TV with rabbit ears. We might as well have used the Etch-a-Sketch.

Eisenhower’s X-Box, the Etch-a-Sketch was.

And so it always seemed a real treat when we could wheedle our mother to drag out the elegant but battered silverware box, left from some set our family never owned, filled with the family photographs. The pictures were mostly black and white too, the current cutting edge of photography being Polaroid’s prehistoric b&w instant photos. They’d come out of the camera, and you’d count to a now forgotten tempo, and pray, and pull off the cover paper to expose the image and stop the developer, and smear your clothes, and hope the picture was vaguely done.

We’d see the usual babies on the shag carpet, buns up; confirmation and communion suits that fit like either a tent or a rubber glove, never any degree in between; little girls in their Easter jumpers and patent leather shoes, with their mothers wearing a hat, a real hat, ready for church. Father, grim, unsmiling in his workday suit, a little shiny at the elbows and knees.

Those photos were only the littlest bit interesting after a while, because they were for the most part, well — us. The exotic ones were always deeper in the pile, instantly recognizable as special by that magnificent sepia tone that photos used to have, and spalling and cracking like a fresco in damp cathedral.

There they’d be, the southern Italian or Irish immigrant faces, looking stoically at the camera, surrounded by extended family on a stoop in Cambridge or Dorchester or Roxbury Massachusetts, or perhaps Antigonish, Nova Scotia. They had their hard lives written all over their faces. But always calm looking. Serene, really; not introspective or egoist. And they looked into the lens in a way that we never do. Not at it, but through it.

Our parents would strain to remember all the names, and who did what and from where, and why and when. And I figure, with the small wisdom that I’ve accumulated with age, that when we pestered them too much about someone obscure, they made stuff up.

And then his face would turn up. Handsome, mysterious, forever young. Forte.

Who’s that?

That’s my brother Bobby, my mother would answer. And that was that.

I was young, and still in the thrall of my parents, and sensed it. Here is a place you do not go.

The years passed, and the TV was in color, and my wrists and ankles began to show from my hand-me-down cousins’ clothes. And the box came out less often. But when it did, the tantalizing face, handsomer than all the others, undiminished by time or care, resplendent in a uniform, always caught your eye. He died before I was born I learned, by osmosis I think, I don’t remember ever having the nerve to ask, and I’m sure it wasn’t offered.

In Korea.

And the earth spun, and the seasons changed, and then I was a man.

One day, my mother came to me. She had a picture. it had lain stored and untouched for fifty years, coiled, and she couldn’t unroll it without destroying it. We slowly, ever so carefully unrolled it, the flecks of black and white popping off, as I stared at the faces. Hundreds and hundreds of faces. Five rows, stretching right off the page, four feet long, all in identical infantry uniforms, except the six cooks dressed all in white. C Company 506- Infantry, 101st Airborne Division. Camp Breckinridge, KY. December 27, 1952.

And there was only four ways to stand out in that mob of faces. The cooks, of course. One man in the hundreds wears an officer’s hat, and looks ten minutes older than the rest. One man is holding drumsticks over a military style snare drum. And in the very center, in the very front, one man holds the company colors on a lance. Two crossed muskets, a Capital “C” and a “506.”

And he has the face that speaks to me.

Now when I was in college, on a lark, my friends and I went skydiving. We trained all day in a sweltering hangar in upstate New York amongst the farms. They strapped army surplus gear on us, hung us on straps depending from the hangar roof, and shook us around violently by our heels until we demonstrated that we could unbuckle our main chute from the straps on our shoulders, then pull the cord on our belly chute. Fun.

We climbed resolutely into a DeHavilland Beaver, which now seems to me an odd name for a plane, and knelt in rows in the fuselage. A few long minutes later we launched ourselves, some with difficulty, out the open hole in the side and into a whirlwind far over the patchwork quilt of the fields. A tether pulled our chute for us, and we drifted down and found a place with a liquor license.

I called my father, and told him what I had done. Expecting praise, I guess, or some such. And he called me, gently, the fool I was.

I protested: but you were in a bomber plane. They must have made you jump. And he told me, son, if that plane was on fire, filled to the brim with rabid rats, and piloted by a dead man, I’d still take my chances in the plane. And to jump from a perfectly good one, he said, is foolish. Click.

My father was in the Army Air Force. Ball gunner, hanging in a plastic bubble under a B-24J, Les Miserables, over the Pacific. Air Medal. Distinguished Flying Cross. After I pestered him enough, he once told me a sort of a story about the war. He reeled off the names, Tarawa. Pelelau, Kwajalein, Tinian. He mentioned, in an offhand way, that after some island had been bombed flat, they later landed on it. It looked like the island had been picked up ten feet, he said, then dropped. His CO told them that some planes were coming. On these planes were some people. They were coming from somewhere. They were going somewhere else. When the planes landed, my father and his compatriots were instructed not to talk to these men, or even about them; and if he said so much as hello to one of them, or said “boo” about them to anyone else, he would spend the remainder of the war in a military prison, incommunicado. My father lost his desire, if he had had any, to speak about those men. He surmised some of them later flew a plane named the Enola Gay.

My father seldom talked much about being in the military.

And my mother never talked about the brother in the photographs.

Now the picture, the coiled picture, was ruined. But then, we don’t watch black and white TV any more, do we? My mother took that picture, and a bankroll, and had a necromancer or an alchemist or something at a digital photography studio restore it, perfectly, and make copies for all of us nephews. Mine hangs today over my kitchen table.

He watches over me.

I was forty years old. My mother told me, Uncle Bobby hated his real name.

His real name?

Francis, she said.

My middle name is Francis. I never knew.

7 Responses

  1. I, too, have exited an aircraft [while in flight] nine times. It’s not crazy when the Air Force is flying the plane.

    I still love this post. [Commenter’s note: there is no editor.]

  2. I have read approximately half a dozen of your entries (essays, lest I forget that they are, indeed, written), and I have a ton to say about your blog, most of which makes me feel like a simpering ninny. I have the crassness and cynicism of a man three times my age, and still cannot help feeling, well…nice after visiting your blog.

    My wife and I were married just over a year ago, and in the slide show that we put together for our wedding (which I believe is now federal law, otherwise the marriage is not legal) we tacked on a memorial segment at the end. The slide show ran while the hundred or so guests were milling about, eating, mingling, whatever, and they kept on doing just that throughout the show. Then the memorial portion started, and the first picture of my wife’s grandfather came up, and the crowd became quiet and attentive.

    It was that familiar sepia (or it may have just been a good, faded b/w, I haven’t looked since) with him standing right in front of the door of a Quonset hut. He was between drags of a filterless cigarette, with his dress uniform in that state of dishevelment that can only be perfectly, poetically reached about 4 minutes after the release from the formation that followed the ceremony that you got all dressed up for. Graduation, change of command, Division Review, et al. The only thing more important than getting out of that suit is the cigarette you’re about to have. It was perfect, and it silenced everybody.

    There were a few more similar photos, and then a handful of more recent, full-color photos of recently gone relatives and friends of relatives (we’re still too young to have a very large collection of dead/dying friends). Everyone watched quietly for the 5 or so minutes that the memorial lasted.

    Serving as the partner bookend to the amazing photo of my wife’s grandpa (and this was not by design) was a nearly brand new picture of a close friend of mine just outside of a fighting position on the top of a mountain in Afghanistan. Killed in action the summer prior to our wedding, he stands there looking not quite at the camera, but just barely off to the taker’s right, with some valley extending enormously out behind and below a tiny little wall of sandbags. Looking at that picture in the context of the picture of Anna’s (my wife, hooray) grandpa and also of your Uncle Bobby, I have a thought that sounds a little too flippant and detached, but I think appropriately reverent: Instant classic. It’s the perfect tribute to the man and soldier and NCO that Jared was, because years down the road it is going to create awe and something like worship in some young nephew of his.

    Of course it will be digital and as crystal clear as the day it was taken, but like your uncle and my wife’s grandpa, it will not be subtle little tricks of time that bring out the character in that photo. It will be, well, it will be his character.

  3. Hi Thud- My dad would like you because his family took the mail boat from Liverpool to Canada all those years ago.

    Thanks for reading and commenting, gyoung

    Hi Ruth Anne- I’ve decide to run it every Memorial Day, as I am proud of my Uncle, and very lazy.

    As I recall, both you and your husband are veterans.

    My dad’s service predates the “Air Force,” of course. It was still the Army back then. I remember making model airplanes when I was a kid and asking my old man what USAAF stood for.

    “U See Anti Aircraft Fire” was his reply.

    Andy- Thanks for reading and offering your own story. I’m always proud, not sad on Memorial Day. Sounds like you are too.

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